With firsts.

After depressing myself with photos of a more able, heel-wearing version of me, I made a firm decision to focus on the person I am right now. I started by reminding myself that in my current state, I would not have been cared for and spoiled by the amazing two women who took me out for a coffee last week. I probably would have been clock-watching in a stuffy office beside an agnostic, disillusioned, Thatcher hater and a socialist Che Guevera supporter who can’t see the humanity of people right in front of her. I also reminded myself that I am now sitting in a beautiful room, listening to two men making my garden more accessible for me. Yes, I am spoiled and very thankful.

Next time you hanker after halcyon days, notice the good in the ones you have right now. There has to be a turning away from what you wrongfully remember about the past, and towards what you have been given in the present. I will confess that I am a master of self-pity, but I recognise that gratitude can be not just mine but everyone’s saving grace.

Of course, I can only continue with this lifestyle because my amazing husband works hard and my wonderful parents would do anything for me.

Let’s you and I stand on all we have been given and live a life brimming with thankfulness. Let what was in the past stay there and expect more waves of kindness to break over you. They are easy to miss, so be on the lookout